Playing nice on Facebook

Facebook recently welcomed the arrival of their 1-billionth user.  While this can be a powerful evangelism tool, many fret about what might happen if they open their church to the world-wide-web and social media.  What if someone writes something bad?  Says something untrue? Throws mud?  Not to worry, there’s ways for dealing with that.

We wouldn't tolerate unkind or un-Christian behavior in your church (at least I hope not!).  You don’t need to tolerate it on your Facebook site either.   Experience has taught, even the kindest person can sport a wicked tongue on social media.  People can be really passive-aggressive when not looking you in the face. The best way to nip this bad behavior in the bud is to set up some playground rules.  Yes, the same simple rules that kept kids from calling each other names and throwing sand can also help you keep order on your social media site.

Playground rules for Facebook

First, here’s the best part, you get to make the rules!  Any post on your social media site can be taken down by the page administrator (you) or Facebook.  However, people, just like kids, need to know the rules first, before you kick them off the monkey bars.   It helps to add your Facebook Post Policy to the site so everyone knows how you are going to roll. 

Here's a typical statement that you can modify for your own use:
"Greetings and welcome!  We are glad to have you visiting our Facebook page.  This is where we hold discussions about topics of interest to those who attend Anywhere Church. This page is designed to help keep people informed, share ideas, debate topics, and find resources to create disciples of Jesus Christ for the transformation of the world.

Our etiquette for posting is pretty straight forward. This is not the place to post products or services.   We’ve been able to keep this group vibrant by preventing it from becoming a dumping ground for spam and promotion. Please don’t be offended if we delete your post. Just know that we're working to keep it as a vibrant forum for our readers.

Conversations on issues important to our faith are also welcome. We just ask that you do so with Grace.   Language that is profane, harmful or abusive are reasons to have your post removed. 

If you have questions about our guidelines, please let us know.  We want this to be an open and welcoming place, and also expressive of God's Love." 

Before you remove a post, remind everyone in a heated exchange that they agreed to a set of rules and where to find them. When things are headed south, post something like, “Friends, we work very hard to keep this Facebook community as a safe and open place to post.  Please refer to our posting rules.  Let's share our thoughts with one another with Grace.”  It has been my experience that 95% of the time people behave when they are reminded.  

Freedom of speech

While tempting to take down anything that even remotely smacks as negative, refrain from hitting the delete button.  Social media prides itself on being transparent and fair to all voices.  If you start deleting posts it will be considered censorship and you will lose followers.  However, abuse is never acceptable at anytime.  Having a difference of opinion is another matter.  You may fear seeing an open discussion of conflict on your church Facebook page, but keep in mind, that discussion is going to happen whether it is on your social media site or not.  Better to know what people are saying and have the opportunity to respond than have it show up in a place where you have no voice. That is also why I recommend having both a public page and a private group Facebook site.  

Finally, if you think someone is just trying to pull you into a fight, don’t take the bait. Privately send them a message inviting them to in-person face-to-face dialog.  If they refuse, remove them or report them to Facebook.  Sometimes you have to take your ball and go home.  Then pray to God for forgiveness.

Tell me what you think.